Mistakes Of Engagement

Maybe you'll get marry believing that you're in love, like travelers walking on the desert, hungry and thristy, they can convince themselves that a few meters they'll find an oasis.
You look an illusion when you idealize.
You've lost the control by someone that you don't know very well.
you see the prince or princess of your dreams incarnate in that person, that is only a creation of you.
you give him o her skills and virtues, that she or he doesn't have.
If you find a defect, and say you could change it. you only obtain to harass and intimidate this person.
As Upshot this person lost the skills that initially you liked.

The Ideal love destroyes the heart because it doesn't exist.
The True Love has to build between two mature personthat accept how they are.
the true love grow up when both have freedom, independece, and autonomy.
the love has to strew, water, cultivate and final it has to harvest.
If You are not willing to work, never you'll get it.

And believe me, anything is more painful that wake up in a horrible reality when is too much late.